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How to be a good wife in islam

So, I made a list of 10 habits that my husband has commented on over time that has produced positive changes in our relationship. He is right, the first year of marriage is really about adapting and compromise. We are shown our terrible habits how did our parents put up with us? Adding some spice and maintaining some good habits will make a very successful and enjoyable marriage. This is by far the most important habit a Muslim Wife can do to make a successful marriage.

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So, I made a list of 10 habits that my husband has commented on over time that has produced positive changes in our relationship. He is right, the first year of marriage is really about adapting and compromise. We are shown our terrible habits how did our parents put up with us? Adding some spice and maintaining some good habits will make a very successful and enjoyable marriage. This is by far the most important habit a Muslim Wife can do to make a successful marriage. Before marriage, my husband and I were both active people.

He was an extreme biker and I played basketball for almost 10 years before we met. After marriage and the onset of chores, work and family obligations, time for staying healthy was becoming low on our priority scale. Over time, we both forgot the initial attraction we had for one another — an active, healthy lifestyle. As we have brought the active lifestyle back into our lives, we both realize we learn a lot about each other through activity. It is by far a crucial aspect of our relationship and one that really keeps us connected, alhamdulillah.

Listen and Be Supportive One of the best things a Muslim Wife can do for her husband is be supportive. We all know the famous story of our Beloved Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him; after receiving revelation, he came straight home to his nurturing wife, Sayyidina Khadija, may Allah be pleased with her.

For me, this starts as soon as your husband comes home through the door. Greeting your husband with a salaam, a smile and a hug is sure to set a peaceful atmosphere right away. If he is holding something in his hands, like groceries, take them from him, hand him a glass of juice or have some fruit or snacks readily available.

These small gestures show simple kindness and goes a long way. If your husband had a hard day at work, the initial greeting will soothe him. Thereafter, if he needs to vent about his boss or co-worker, listen to him.

A good listener asks questions, makes good eye contact and reassures with nods and affection. Initially, take his side! The first initial response he is looking for is support and kindness from his wife, even if he is wrong. Thereafter, of course you can give advice and guide. Another tip — remember names of people your husband says. So, lend a good ear and your hearts will come closer together.

Be Creative — Change is Good! We like to change things around in our apartment every season. This is as simple as changing the furniture into a different position, changing hanging pictures or de-cluttering old knick knacks. Over time, my husband and I have become minimalists. We like the clean counter-tops, things put away in drawers and cupboards, and we have a new distaste for random objects.

So, we minimize every season by giving away clothes, dishes and books. We change our chores around too. I usually cook and he washes the dishes, but lately we have been cooking together and then sharing the dishes too I soap while he rinses. We have about four or five home-cooked meals that we both enjoy and we basically just rotate them week to week. But, after a while we add a new dish to the mix. Engage in Good Conversation — Learn New Things Engaging in meaningful dialogue that does not consist of talking about family, friends or every day matters can boost your marriage.

However, your relationship truly grows and tests new boundaries when you learn new things and share them with your spouse. My husband shares new things he is always learning from blogging, marketing and computer stuff.

To be honest, this is foreign to me. But, it is something that he is motivated by and by listening to him I have learned a lot of interesting things about it and he has convinced me to write this article for example, lol. At times, when we disagree on a topic, our persuasive strategies kick in, allowing for a good debate. When other temporary things fall away that make you happy — a good conversation can last a life-time.

Be Alive and Excited about Life Do you remember the first time you met your husband? Probably one of those awkward meetings or something. But, I remember both of us being alive and happy. We tried to look our best and be interesting too. They actually walk around with a frown! They might have a problem or concern that of course makes them look and feel a certain way, but over time if the sad state continues it can really dampen the best of relationships.

If you find yourself bored and sad, then it is really up to you to make a change in the relationship. If you are seriously upset about something, then seek help!

There are so many things to be excited and alive about in the world! You might need a change in your circle of friends who really do have a big influence on how you see and do things or you might need a new hobby or need to get outside and get fresh air on a regular basis. Being energetic and happy and willing to try new things with your husband is an important aspect of marriage. Being grumpy and unmotivated can lead to a whole bunch of problems for both of you.

Find a new friend or a new hobby or a new book and get excited about life. Your husband will notice the energy and cheerfulness in you and you could change the atmosphere of your home and relationship just by changing your mood. Have One Good Girl Friend Or Mom — Share your Problems with Grace There are some things that you just need to tell a girl friend because she will just understand and some things you can only tell your husband and it is important to know the difference.

There is a certain kind of respect and dignity a husband needs to have. And, sisters, there is a certain level of respect and dignity he also has for you, too. I have seen too many times, sisters complaining about other sisters, their clothes or their characters to their husbands.

Sharing secrets or worse the flaws of other sisters to your husbands is a big no-no, especially if the sister confided in you. Even though you and your husband are a pair, your sister friend should not feel that everything she tells you is going straight to the husband!

This is not only gossip and forbidden in Islam, but boring and undignified to your husband. Your husband can be your best friend and will be with you to the very end, inshaAllah.

It is not worth it to lose your husband and what matters to him over a friend who no matter how close they are, can end up not being there for you in the end.

And, the marriage chapter of your life begins. And one fun thing a Muslim Wife can do is simply dress up and smell good. Taking care of personal hygiene and working on yourself inwardly is sure to add to your overall character. So, strike a balance between the outward and the inward appearance of you and watch the positive benefits come into your marriage and family. Some of us have been too immersed in Western culture and seen all the movies that we have expectations of our husbands to act a certain way or we are the complete opposite where we have been so sheltered that marriage and the thought of living with a boy when you are married is strange and almost — wrong!

And, it is strange. All of our lives, sisters grow up in the homes of parents only to leave them quite suddenly to live with a complete stranger most people only know each other for a short while before they get married. But, the truth of the matter is that marriage is a noble sunnah that is one of the most beautiful aspects of our deen. And, one of the best things a Muslim Wife can do is to be affectionate, even if it has to be learned over time. This is your husband now.

The one man that you married and will be married to for ever, inshaAllah. Be affectionate with your husband, whatever that means to you, and the affection will lead to a closer and more connected relationship. Human touch, whether it be holding hands or a hug, leads to Mercy Rahma in relationships whether it is with your husband, sister friends or even your parents.

So, be affectionate often and reap the benefits. If he asked you to make a meal for his family, it means you go all out and make the dishes with care and effort. If you are going out for a special day, it means you take time to find the right outfit and perhaps wear it a bit differently than he is used to. It could mean sending him a random text message to say you are thinking of him or a random e-card.

It could mean spending extra time listening to him talk to you about his concerns without you changing the subject. It could mean baking home-made cookies, inviting him on a special day you have planned, making him a gift or cleaning his desk space.

So, say thank you every night to your husband before you go to sleep for anything and everything that he has done for you. Remember the big things and the small things and soon all small things will turn into big things for you, inshaAllah. He will feel happy that he could help and may make him feel like doing it even more for you!

Most importantly, give thanks to Allah, most Generous, and He will increase your marriage even more, inshaAllah. Parting Thoughts This list is a reminder first to myself before I send them to you. All of these are from experience of being married for almost three years now.

You may agree or disagree, but these are just some things that have helped the both of us over time. Feel free to share more insight or your own tips with us in the comments below. Get Our News Updates Name. Massive square km iceberg Oct 1, Saudis agree to more US troops Jul 21, US pulls some staff from Iraq May 16,

Win His Heart: A Psychological Approach for WOMEN

Quran: [] "You shall not accept any information, unless you verify it for yourself. I have given you the hearing, the eyesight, and the brain, and you are responsible for using them. Quran: [] "O ye who believe! Avoid suspicion as much as possible : for suspicion in some cases is a sin: And spy not on each other behind their backs.

The woman who remains patient in all circumstances, and tries to never whine, moan, nag or complain. When some trouble or affliction hits her, she turns to Allah Almighty for help.

Like the husband, a wife has certain duties to safeguard the family. Most important of these are:. A husband is the head of the family and its guardian. He carries this responsibility because his physical makeup makes him more fit to carry the burdens of life and support his family. Consequently, she must neither betray him nor forfeit his rights.

Being a Muslim Wife, rights and duties

A few questions here Who should you get married to Why should you get married to that person How to get married a second time. As this world is a stage that leads to the hereafter, in which man is tested to see what he will do, so that he will be requited for it on the Day of Resurrection, what the wise Muslim must do is seek in this world everything that will help him to attain happiness and bliss in the hereafter. The most important help and support is righteous company. Then finally he should choose a righteous wife who he hopes will be the best companion to help him attain eternal happiness in paradise with Allah, may He be glorified and exalted. She is the one who is of good character and has good manners. She is not known for foul speech, meanness or bad manners; rather she is good-natured, pure of soul and clean of heart, speaks in a gentle manner and treats people kindly. More important than all of that, she accepts advice and listens to it attentively and wholeheartedly; she is not one of those who are used to arguing stubbornly and arrogantly. One of the scholars said: The best of women is the one who, if she is given she is grateful, and if she is deprived she is patient; you feel happy when you look at her, and she obeys you if you instruct her to do something. She is the one who upholds her connection to her Lord and always strives to increase her level of faith and piety.

Muslim Wife

Every people in this world has their own roles to be played. As for woman, after she gets married she must perform her duties as a wife. The power of a wife cannot be underestimated since a good wife is capable to bring her whole family in the gate of Jannah. To be able to do that, a wife must be a good wife. Speaking of which, there are many ways how to become a good wife in Islam.

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Indeed, in that are signs for a people who give thought. The concept of marriage is very ancient dating back beyond Abrahamic religions and recorded history and was practiced by all people of many cultures, religions, and ethnicities throughout the earth. Therefore, it provides the people who are ready for committing themselves to marriage with a comprehensive guideline.

10 habits of highly effective Muslim wives

Toggle navigation. Being a Muslim Wife, rights and duties. Here are some thoughts around what it takes to be a good, righteous Muslim wife. Start with this basic principle.

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Marriage is a natural necessity for every human being. It bears many good outcomes of which the most important ones are:. A person who is not married resembles a bird without a nest. Marriage serves as a shelter for anyone who feels lost in the wilderness of life; one can find a partner in life who would share one's joy and sorrow. Everyone should have a partner for satisfying their sexual needs in a secure and serene environment. Everyone should enjoy sexual satisfaction in a correct and proper manner.

12 Lovely Ways How to Become a Good Wife in Islam

Marriage is a sacred social formation; not only in Islam but in all religions and faiths.. I had noticed the unjust attitudes of most husbands , which are simply deviation from the cores of Islam, and the righteous guidance of his Prophet PBUH.. We need to admit that we lack lots of the true essences and knowledge of Islam, due to translation, illiteracy and media confusion.. Then we shall collectively strive to understand more and carefully implement the correct behavior and habits.. Our unqualified Imams had already ruined many generations, and indirectly seeded extremism and domestic abuse, by ill-interpreted Quran verses and Hadith..

of Islam, and for those who are not followers. Here are some thoughts around what it takes to be a good, righteous Muslim wife. Start with this basic principle.

As women, we desire to have a deep emotional bond with our spouse. We want to be loved and adored. Our inner core is filled with contentment and happiness when we feel understood and appreciated.

How To Choose A Good Wife In Islam

Jump to navigation. Although many Muslims may right now be in failing marriages and on a fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many ways to put their marriage back on the right track if the husband and wife are sincere in their desire to reconcile. The following principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in trouble or by Muslims who would like to avoid trouble in their marriage.

Tips for a better husband and wife relationship

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Characteristics of the righteous wife

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